Reflections of a stormy petrel

Well, not being Catholic myself, but Protestant, the specifics of what you've outlined here don't have quite as much of an impact for me as I'm sure they do for you. I do, however, sympathize with and understand your dislike of churchgoer's obsession with the superficial and aesthetic elements of a service. There is a similar, equally annoying phenomenon among American Protestants: To discriminate or think low of a church depending on whether they have short services or long, on whether the worship music is traditional organ-music and hymns or a contemporary acoustic or even rock band, on whether to use instruments at all during worship, on whether the pastor should preach topically or expositorally, and many other details which only affect the aesthetic of the experience. But those aesthetic details are often used by people to determine which church they will attend, as if participation in the Body of Christ were like a salad bar, with us able to pick and choose what we like best.