What I read here is nothing but a way of thinking and acting that is based on point-scoring. You get caught misrepresenting yourself, and suddenly you start acting the lady. You claim not to be offended, but you are trying to run me down with every word you say and every attitude you strike. Disingenuousness is your middle name: you speak of "youthful follies" when you kept them online for years, built a Yahoo group on them, and apparently have friends ready to defend them at a moment's notice. They only cease to be important, in other words, when you find that someone is offended. You write to your own and your friends' prejudices, but you are not willing to take responsibility for them, and pretend that they are not important enough to care - since in seven years you have apparently seen no reason to rewrite the story, as was well within your rights as an author. You do not even have the honesty and truth to yourself to admit your anger, or to worry that being caught effectively lying might not look good.

To thine own self be true, and it must follow
Thou canst not be false to any man.