It may interest you that some Catholic dioceses insist on people taking marriage and parenting classes before they are married. And it has happened that, as a result of open discussion in these classes, some people have actually decided that they were not ready or suited. "Some", of course - the majority did. After all, most people realize that when you make a decision, you take the bad as well as the good. Even if you only decide to send an aunt a thank-you card, you have to go through the nuisance of choosing and buying one and writing an appropriate message. There is no decision without nuisance.