There was no point in defending her competence to you.
well, you didn't even try, so i guess we'll never know. maybe i would have been amazed and convinced by you pointing to some wonderful thing she did that made everyone's life better, if you could find one. but you're afraid to try.

and i'm sorry debbie thought you were an unlovable creep, but that doesn't make it okay for you to obsess over how ornamental women are or what they do with their own bodies.