It is throwing the baby out with the bath water, but you are under no obligation to read anyone's fics, including mine (though I would be flattered if you did). You have enough to think of anyway. And that is something that fandom, if it had a mind, would have to consider: how repulsive its ways would be to outsiders. My mother, who is a liberal of sorts and getting more liberal as she gets older, asked me what kind of perverts I'd found myself among and had trouble accepting that this was a bunch of regular mostly teen-age girls.