You couldn't make it up dept. no.57: believe it or not, an intelligent person wrote the following:

[fpb]

Nobody with a modicum of self-control HAS to fall in love

(The author of the Roscesvalles blog, to be precise.)

Which goes to show that intelligent people can write the most fantastically idiotic things when they go outside their own areas of experience. IN other words, if you have never been in love, shut up about it.

Comments

[dirigibletrance.livejournal.com]

There's definitely an element of will and conscious choice in falling in Love, your emotions don't simply hold you hostage, unless you're a profoundly immature person.

So, while we might not be able to help being attracted to, and caring for, someone, I think we do have some partial say in who we fall in love with. There's always a moment when can decide not to give into those feelings, after all.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

Sorry, but you must belong to a different human race from mine. I can assure that if I could have done anything about falling in love with a butch lesbian, I would have.

[dirigibletrance.livejournal.com]

No, I belong to the same human race. People have different experiences and different minds than you do, don't forget that.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

But don't call it love, then. For the same reason why I do not call diet coke "Whiskey".

[dirigibletrance.livejournal.com]

I will call it love, because that is what it is to me.

Whiskey is an unhealthy and destructive drink that I stay the hell away from. If you're equating what you're feeling with that, then I want no part of it.

[jennilee.livejournal.com]

There's always a moment when we can decide not to give into those feelings, after all.

And moment after that? And the next? And still, the next?

I can't help but think you're confusing actions and feelings. :/