Swine

[fpb]

The husband of a friend of mine has asked for a divorce just as she is beginning to cope with a long-term illness. I say, what part of "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" did he not understand?

This sort of thing makes me understand why "traditore" and "vigliacco" ("traitor" and "coward") have long been the two worst insults in the Italian language.

Comments

[8bitbard.livejournal.com]

Ugh. Speaking as someone who was abandoned by a very dear friend for shallow reasons, I second this statement 100%. Truly vomit-worthy.

[curia-regis.livejournal.com]

Too many people are like that, unfortunately. Both friends and lovers. *shrug* I've personally given up believing that people will actually turn out to be 'good' people. I'm pleasantly surprised when people do nice things, but there's no point in expecting them to do the right thing.

I'm hoping that it was just bad timing on his behalf. I think it's despicable to leave somebody because of illness (mental or physical) but, well, we do have no fault divorce for a reason. Sometimes it just doesn't work out.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

Oh no it wasn't. He called her "dangerously insane" to her face - with his girlfriend in the room. If I had him within reach of me, I would give him a lesson in decency with a couple of knuckledusters, and perhaps a hammer or a two-by-four.

[curia-regis.livejournal.com]

Wow. That's horrible. I hope his girlfriend realises what she's getting herself into! People like that are ... unlikely to change.

[verity-forsooth.livejournal.com]

That is an absolutely vile betrayal.

And I don't even understand how he could--you'd think it would be unbearable.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

Cowardice, I should imagine. The illness in question is Alzheimer's. What I cannot imagine is how any other woman can support him in this. Doesn't she realize - this could be me, next, as soon as things get rough?

[verity-forsooth.livejournal.com]

Oh, that's too horrible for words.

Even if she thinks, "This will never happen to me--he loves me," of what possible use is the love of someone so heartless, so lost to compassion?

[rosedemon.livejournal.com]

Yes, it is horrible. But in the long run, your friend will be able to count herself lucky. If she is facing Alzheimer's, then she will need a committed support group around her. At least now she can count this jerk out of that circle.

People do horrible things each and every day. I have found that they do eventually pay for their actions. It may take some time, but it does happen. This louse will have his day.

In the meantime, we should focus our prayers for your friend. I will send mine her way.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

Yes, I am also a great believer in sitting by the river and waiting for the corpse of your enemy to come floating past. I have seen it happen in my own matters, not so long ago. I just hope that if and when it happens, it will not be too late for her.

[elegant-bonfire.livejournal.com]

Yes, I am also a great believer in sitting by the river and waiting for the corpse of your enemy to come floating past

Man, I've never heard that expression before, but it's great!

[fpb.livejournal.com]

It's actually quite famous, from a Chinese fable.

[sartorias.livejournal.com]

Oh that poor woman, what a double blow.

[wade-scott.livejournal.com]

I'm sure the Lord would agree with your assessment, as well.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

I just had this vision of a Dante-like Hell in which this kind of selfish, cowardly traitor is made to everlastingly wallow in mud, like a pig.

Traitor and Coward indeed

[johncwright.livejournal.com]

I wish my Christian Conservative friends would be as fanatic about no-fault divorce as they were about sexual misbehavior that cause far less social and personal harm.

I hate this kind of thing. It happens to crippled veterans and accident victims also: once they are in the wheelchair, the lighthearted spouse wants to flush 'em down the Memory Hole and go off dancing with someone younger.

And people preach to me about how Religion is the source of all social ills. Were it not for the dead hand of the Church, so they say, we could all live as we wish!

Humbug and drivel. I would not wish to live "as I wish" until and unless I stop wishing for wicked and self-centered things.

Re: Traitor and Coward indeed

[elegant-bonfire.livejournal.com]

My stepfather dumped my mom while she was undergoing chemo and radiation, after they were married for 20 years. She got the house in the divorce and is now officially in remission after more than 5 years of being cancer free. I told her living well is the best revenge.