Request for netiquette advice

[fpb]

Among my f-list there is a particularly nice and charming person, whom I do not know all that well, but whose posts I enjoy. Just recently, two people whom I detest and whom I barred and blasted from my LJ in two separate incidents for very good reason have turned up on her f-list and started posting fairly frequently. These are people I would cross the road to avoid. I am seriously wondering whether it would not be better for me to de-friend this person, not for any personal reason, but because I do not want to share any space with certain other individuals. Does anyone have any thoughts?

Comments

[rj-anderson.livejournal.com]

Well, I have no idea who you're talking about, but just for the record -- if it's me, by all means do as you feel best and be assured I won't be offended by it. Not that I want to be quick to assume you would think of me as "particularly nice and charming", but the bits about not knowing this person well, and also the presence of some people on my f-list whom I could imagine you might consider anathema (and probably vice versa) made me wonder.

Wandering onto a tangent, I really think LJ ought to have just called it a "Reading List" (or something of that sort) instead of a "Friends List". "Friends List" implies identification and approval, which is why people get hurt when they're defriended. For my part, I title my f-list "Other Frequently Read Journals", because to me that's what it is. Many of the people on my f-list hold political, philosophical, moral and religious views which are wildly different from my own, and I read their journals because I find them interesting, not because I agree with everything said in them.

[fpb.livejournal.com]

On this I do not think I agree - or rather, I do not share your attitude. I named my f-page "Thank God for the following people", nto because I agree with everything - or even with most - of what they say, but because I like what I see of them and they brighten my day. To me, de-friending is a pretty serious business, and one I do only after a row or if the other person has closed his/her LJ or asked me to.