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I do not want to return to this disgusting topic again, except to answer any question, but I am in this whether I like it or not. The storm of insults allowed and encouraged by the contemptible Pirate Jenny, she who is neither a Nazi nor a Communist, continues unabated; most of them, with the classic moral courage of these creatures, being anonymous - while our non-Nazi friend continues to allow them and not to allow me to answer.

Now the point is not so much that this stuff is repulsive - of course it is; but that some people on my f-list seem under the impression that I have done something to deserve it, or that there is something to be said for the trash concerned. So I will publish, behind a cut, a representative letter, from a typical anonymous backstabber. You may judge whether this sort of nonsense can be explained by anything except mental problems on the part of the coward concerned.

This was my comment:

I once wrote a fic called GAY BAR, which featured a strangely subdued bar populated mostly by middle-aged or elderly gays, into which a drunk and unhappy post-war Harry Potter barges in to make trouble. Believe it or not, hundreds of people THINK they have read it and THINK that it features a nasty gaggle of threatening sexual predators endangering a virginal Draco Malfoy. They were told what to think, you see, and they would rather believe their friends than their own lying eyes.

This is the Nameless Wonder's response.
Subject: *hands you a clue*
How about you have a look at this sentence, and then claim you weren't actively trying to piss people off?

Draco could not know that Harry, who did not ordinarily drink to excess, had just been dumped by a boyfriend.

This manages to offend on two levels. First of all, there's the sudden, clunky change of perspective halfway through the narrative, which is one of the FIRST things the "How to Write" books tell you not to do (you've never read a "How To Write" book? Why is this not news to me?)

More importantly there's the use of the phrase "just been dumped by a boyfriend". It's highly offensive in its implications that gay men have nameless "boyfriends", not relationships, and that such relationships are casual throwaway affairs whose end merits no more serious description than the word "dumping".

And how about your statement that gays are fundamentally unhappy in the line "Millicent was telling me about the people who come into her counselling service, and a lot of the gay men either have no fathers or some sort of tragedy in their family history"? Or that disgusting "We'll have your children yet!" stuff, showing beyond all doubt that you believe gay = paedophile?

You write this shit, and then you stand there with your index finger to your lip like a five-year-old and say "Who, ME give offence? ME?"

We laugh at you, you pathetic, silly little man. Now go find something better to do with your time.


Let us assume that this rant is intended as an argument. The Nameless Wonder seems to imagine that to say that someone has "just been dumped by a boyfriend" implies an endles series of promiscuous relationships. Well, even if it did, the Nameless Wonder knows as well as I do that this is a pretty good description of the lifestyles of a fair few male homosexuals, especially when young. Yet the Nameless Wonder takes offence. The point however is that to anyone whose eyes are not glazed over by hatred, the expression means nothing of the kind. As if I could not say, as I indeed do say, "At the time I had just been dumped by a girlfriend" or "once I was betrayed by a friend." Does this imply that I would regard either girlfriends or friends as nameless and expendable? Anyone with the slightest notion of how human beings speak would say no. But our friend the Nameless Wonder is vigilant: he goes out searching for the tiniest little statement that may give offence, even if he has to deafen himself to every natural content and shape of the English language. And this person has the sheer chutzpah to lecture me about style! Vanity certainly rears its ugly children in strange places.

His folly unsatisfied by this display of aesthetic incompetence, he takes words which I had put in the mouth of Draco and his wife - when the ending of the story proves abundantly that they are unreformed criminals with a hankering for Dark Lords and mass murder - and assumes that they represent my position. As well imagine (si parua licet componere magnis) that Iago is the vehicle for Shakespeare's views. He then proceeds to do the same with a character who is raging drunk and desperately unhappy, and who is saying the worst things he can in order to spread around some of his own unhappiness - an unhappiness caused not, as the Nameless Wonder seems to imagine, by being homosexual, but by just having been dumped by someone he loved. All that the Nameless Wonder has managed by this attempt at a reading is to show that he has never in his life been in love, that he has no idea that being dumped can hurt, and that he has no notion that people in pain do strange things - especially if they are drunk.

And so, the Nameless Wonder, without the courage to sign his name, without the life experience to know love and loss, without the aesthetic understanding to tell the difference between the character and the author, and with less manners than a monkey, concluding his display of ignorance, folly, persecution-mindedness, and yelping stupidity, with a closing rant of which a Neapolitan street kid would be ashamed - pretending at some sort of superiority even as his shrill tone and empty verbiage condemns him to the dustcart of near-illiterates - and wanders off, his folly unpunished and his rants undisturbed, because his enabler, Pirate Jenny, wants this sort of behaviour to go on. And on. And on. This is what I am meeting, and while it would be nice to believe that the sheer meanness of these creatures would condemn them, I would remind anyone willing to take that easy way out that these are the same people and methods who produced Charitygate and the rest.

Date: 2006-06-22 02:25 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Ok no clue what's going on here, and I've never read the fic so I don't know if it is or is not Highly Offensive but uhhhhh this

More importantly there's the use of the phrase "just been dumped by a boyfriend". It's highly offensive in its implications that gay men have nameless "boyfriends",

Excuse while I hold my sides and fall over laughing.

Riiighhh I've heard people say they've been dumped by there finace.

Well gee! Clearly then that was an attack on all engaged couples imlying straight people become engaged to facles people and have insignifcant relationships! Geee I never knew.

I mean honestly.
Like I said, can't speak for the whole fic, but if that's an example if "highly offensive" oh good lord.

I could write more about the inherent dumbass assumption of the reviewer but they fixed my password issues and now I can work (yay -_-)

Date: 2006-06-22 02:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ani-bester.livejournal.com
Oh ijits, the anon comment that mentions going back to work and passwords was me. I forget I'm not auto logged at work.

Date: 2006-06-22 04:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
If you want to check out the original story, it is still up at ffnet under the monicker fpb.

Date: 2006-06-22 05:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Now see, I didn't personally like the fic, but I don't have any problems with the terms you used in it. It's obviously completely AU, and although the OOC Harry is mostly why I didn't care for it, your right to write it should not be impugned upon.

In my experience, most of these anonymice wank about things just for the sake of wank. I try not to involve myself in fandoms mostly because I don't have the time and energy to invest in it. I've got a house to run, a child to take care of, and another one on the way, and being active in a fandom takes up gads of time.

I was introduced to you via the Blaise Zabini debacle, and though I didn't agree with your opinion then, as I don't agree with your writing now, I was impressed by your eloquent arguments towards your detractors. Most people on this crazy thing called the internet tend to plow headlong into an argument full of WTF's and ZOMG's and other such internet chatter. Which, while it is completely their right, it doesn't impress upon one their ability to solidly argue their point.

I do not belong to journalfen, and I only read things from fandom_wank when I'm linked to them, but to wrap this already long comment up, what I'm struggling valiantly to convey is this. Most of the people who attack you on these forums are those who have little or no talent of their own, and/or have an incessant need for attention. So my advice is this. If you haven't by some miracle figured this out already, it doesn't matter how little or how much you argue your point. They've made up their minds about you from the start, and nothing you say will change them.

Date: 2006-06-22 06:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
I am flattered. And since you make it clear (as I have guessed you would) that you do not agree with me on a number of things, I am twice as flattered. I do not assume that every one of the anonymice concerned is quite talentless, but I do think that they fall far short of the required endowment of honesty and personal courage. And that is just as bad.

BTW, have you ever read any other of my fics? I suspect you might like a few of them, such as It Was All on Account of the Little Russian Girl or Harry Potter and the Ice Princess.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
There are some things I do agree with you upon, but I'm not always good about commenting. I've found that you're right however, in that the anonymice don't have honesty or personal courage. I try not to comment anonymously unless it's an accident, or it's to bestow kindness on someone while not revealing my identity. People are more likely to take compliments if they come anonymously.

I have not read any of your other fics. Are they hosted in the same archive as Gay Bar?

Date: 2006-06-22 07:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
33 fics are archived at ffnet under the name fpb. Almost all of them (except for Gay Bar) plus a few more are hosted at FA under the name Fabio P.Barbieri. FA also has a few items of fanart of mine and a poem.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Oh, damn. I forgot to mention that a few of the items at ffnet are not HP at all and so could not be stored at FA anyway. They include two of my favourites, Orpheus (Greek mythology) and What if Glory had won? (Buffy). Long ago I started a Buffy/HP chaptered fic that I never could finish, so I pulled it from FA; it can currently be found in the archives of my LJ. And I think that is really all I have published as a fan online. (Before I ever discovered Harry Potter, I spent ten years trying to break into comics and developed a whole superhero universe. I have also written quite a bit in other areas.)

Date: 2006-06-22 07:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
I read Harry Potter and the Ice Princess and found it well written, and though partially OOC for Harry, it was conceivable that he might act on such a proposition, were it presented to him as such. I cannot find the Russian Girl fic. Is it at FA?

I have not yet gone to FA, but I will after a bit. I need to do some cleaning around the house before it gets too warm. We've a forecasted high of 103F for today.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Yes, at Astronomy Tower. And I will make you temporarily jealous by telling you that it is a nice, cool, long evening here right now.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:46 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
At this moment, I loathe you with the intensity of a thousand burning suns.

I cannot convey how much comtempt and justifiable hatred I carry for heat. Most especially as I am 6 1/2 months pregnant, and thus my body is 10% hotter than the rest of the human population.

The only thing redeeming you from placement on my "shit list" is that I have a pool. And I shall be visiting it this afternoon and evening.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:58 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Good. Enjoy your pool. And sorry, being a bloke, I seriously had not considered the effect of pregnancy - otherwise I'd have kept my gloating to myself.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
I'm kidding. I don't blame men for not understanding how heat and pregnancy rival oil and water. You'll never know what we have to go through as women giving birth to new life. Just as thankfully, we'll never have to know what being kicked in the balls feels like.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
The REALLY nasty thing is getting your pubic hair caught in your foreskin and pulled. Makes you understand circumcision.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
I can imagine that's about as bad as getting your pubic hairs knotted together after a particularly rough bout of sex.

Being female, is sometimes a rather difficult task.

Hey, I had not paid attention before...

Date: 2006-06-22 08:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
...Icon love!! Hahahahaha, that is brilliant!

Re: Hey, I had not paid attention before...

Date: 2006-06-22 08:12 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Why thank you. I love having 104 icons.

Date: 2006-06-22 07:47 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
You don't know half of what how mean those people are with him. Read this:
http://www.journalfen.net/community/otf_wank/419956.html#cutid1
I say, even through the bias, fpb's nobility of mind is shining.
~fpb's secret admirer~

Date: 2006-06-22 08:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
I don't know. I have taken a controversial stance there, and I expect a lot of people would call it anything but "nobility of mind". This sort of praise is rather embarrassing, especially where people might disagree with me on a serious issue - one, indeed, that could not possibly be more serious.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
While I do believe you were unfairly vilified by the woman whom you were arguing fervently with, you are right in saying you took a controversial stance, and that right there, along with the whole reason we met, the Blaise Zabini debacle, is why things like you being wanked in otf_wank, fandom_wank, and wank_report will always happen.

You have the courage to stand out against your beliefs and justify, defend, and explain them until you're blue in the face. It takes balls and courage to not ever back down from your opinions. I have seen you take a stance on something, and alter your opinion when proven wrong, and for that I admire you.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
*blushes very brightly*

Date: 2006-06-22 08:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Your icon this time reminds me of the wonderful chapter on friendship in C.S.Lewis' The Four Loves. Have you ever read it? If not, I recommend it - indeed, the whole book is full of interesting insights, but that is in my view the best chapter.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
At the moment, I'm still slogging through the Chronicles of Narnia, as I haven't read them since I was a young girl, and I loved the Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe movie.

I shall endeavor to pick up that tome on my next visit to a bookshop. :o)

Date: 2006-06-22 08:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Another brilliant icon. I swear, you almost make me reconsider the decision to use one distinctive image of Athena all the time.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Ah yes, well, my dearest friend gave me a paid account and a 100 userpic addon last year in September in honor of my having my very first blog ever.

I decided not to waste the opportunity.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
I think I'll copy the song and see if I can use it in a fic. And I don't suppose I'll have been the first.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Most decidedly not. I've heard from many a HP fandom visitor that it's a quite popular song.

You might want to join a community here on LJ called [livejournal.com profile] userpicks. That's where I got that userpic from. It's a quite hilarious community.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
The thing is, I still will keep using my one boring old icon. So I will admire the inventions of others, but I doubt I will ever have any use for them.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:10 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
My suggestion was not meant for you to take more icons, just to let you know where to view many humorous ones. Your Athena is your trademark.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
This one is rather gruesomely funny. (I wrote a comic about young women cutting themselves about twenty years ago.)

Date: 2006-06-22 08:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Let's stop this right here. It is getting far too close to a mutual admiration society for my taste.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Ah yes, but what better way to make ourselves feel "superior" than to mutually admire the intelligence and morality between us.

*snark* I love when people tell me or others that we're trying to act superior/feel we're superior, just because they don't believe the same things and/or cannot/choose not to defend themselves.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
True enough. And the problem with [personal profile] dreamer_marie was just that she was not really able to defend her position. So she threw herself into moral blackmail - if I am your friend you must not hurt me - attacking my country hurts me - I used to be mocked as a child. Pardon me, but what on God's green earth does any of that have to do with euthanasia? These things are to be judged on their own terms. If you think they are right, defend them. If you disagree but feel unable to argue, say so and I won't push the issue. But do not, for the love of heaven, make demands of me in the name of friendship, because if you do, it is not friendship, it is manipulation.

Date: 2006-06-22 08:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
As do most people, I have quite established and solid opinions on certain issues. I'm pro-death penalty, but at the same time I have to wonder if it's really doing what it's meant to do. There's another psycho born every minute, and aside from the massive cost of housing criminals who've already been sentenced to death and appeal for 20 years, how do we really know that all the people we're executing are actually guilty?

I'm pro-choice because as a woman who's been in certain situations, I don't believe our government should ever have the right to dictate what a woman can do regarding her own body, and anything implanted in it, whether accidentally, or by force.

And I am pro-euthanasia, mostly because in my life I have seen entirely too many animals and humans alike suffer. For no reason. One of my close friends' grandmother was hit by a car. She had absolutely no brain activity. No spontaneous movement. She would most likely live another 15 years or more on life support, draining the hospital of it's resources, taking up space in a convalescent facility, using her and her husband's life savings and everything else her family could spare just to keep her alive by machine. Thankfully she had an advanced directive. Her husband, though completely grief-stricken, honored her wishes. He had her removed from life support. And though I don't fully believe in supernatural occurences, he swore that the day after she died as he was sleeping, she visited him in the night and thanked him for his selfless decision. It's reasons such as that which keep my mind open when it comes to euthanasia.

I do recognize that there are exceptions to every rule, and while I do not militantly espouse these views, I would do my level best to defend them, were I attacked for them. So I was quite in agreement with you vis-a-vis your stance on how she chose to try and defend her position.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
The one thing I want to take you up on is your icon here. Read this: http://community.livejournal.com/fpb_de_fide/1203.html#cutid1.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:14 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
That icon was used by accident, as I was intending to use the one below it in the list, which is the one in this post.

That icon was made from a remark made by a jewish character from a roleplaying game I'm in, and was not made by me. It's an icon I usually only use in connection with the OOC comm for that game. I didn't read all of the essay you linked me to yet, as I should have left the computer 2 hours ago, but I will definitely save it and read it at a later date.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:15 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
With reference to your last icon:
Happiness is friend-shaped.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
Yes, it is. But in honor of your arguments about the Dutch, I thought I'd use the pot icon in reference to their liberal and legal views on marijuana use.

I don't smoke it myself, but I've said more than once that I hardly see the harm if a bunch of potheads want to get stoned out of their minds. It's the least likely of all the drugs to cause violence and hysteria. Virtually every person I've ever met stoned has been mellow on the stuff. And to top it all off, it's not a physically addicting drug such as speed, heroin, cocaine, and crack.

Date: 2006-06-22 09:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
I'm with you there, at least. I am in favour of legalizing most drugs - I would make an exception for LSD, which I have known to ruin someone's health permanently after a single use. But in general, seeing that we retail wine and whiskey, I do not see why other kinds of drug should be illegal.

Date: 2006-06-25 11:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] super-pan.livejournal.com
FPB, I was frankly not strong stomached enough to say anything to you while this was going on, but as as a friend to both you and Dreamer_Marie, I feel that I should tell you that I think you were were wrong in the way that you spoke to her, as she was your friend. I'm not saying you were wrong to speak or defend your beliefs, or argue with her, or even defriend her, because you are passionate and strong in your positions, but I still think you were wrong about the way you acted towards her. You treated her the way you treat the assholes that troll your lj whenever you get fandom wanked, and while they often deserve what you dish out, she didn't. I wanted to stay out of it, because you are both my friends, but I should have said something.

I don't like to have my friends trash each other, even though technically people have a right to say whatever they want. And I personally wish you guys would stop saying shit about each other publically. That's just my personal opinion, and I plan on saying it to everyone now when my friends talk about each other publically.

As I've said before, you were my first friend and you are important to me, but I wanted to tell you how I feel.

Date: 2006-06-26 01:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
Excuse me, who defriended who, exactly? And who, for that matter, reported me to the mods for hate speech (to their great mirth)? And it was open to d_m to say, at any time, I disagree with you but do not feel up to (or, do not want) to discuss this. In that case, I would have stopped. She did not do that, and she did not discuss things in a fair way, either: she pulled the emotional blackmail stunt, which does not work in the case of state-sponsored murder, because there is so much more to get emotional about than whether or not she was teased as a child. (Was she now? Welcome to the club.) Frankly, I do not think you are thinking about this matter very clearly.

Date: 2006-06-26 03:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] super-pan.livejournal.com
I'm just letting you know how I felt, for whatever it's worth to anyone.

It's hard to know when to say nothing, and when to speak up, when watching the fur fly between my friends, and I don't know always know the right thing to say, but sometimes I feel I should speak up.

I don't like the public fighting among some of my friends, and I'm just letting them know. They can do what they like with my opinion.

I'm not going to let anyone change my feelings about my friends, including my other friends. Which I've said to some others involved in the fighting amongst my flist.

Date: 2006-06-26 04:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
It is a point of honour with me not to force a debate on anyone who does not want it, or who is unable to answer it; just because I know that I am both aggressive and difficult in debate. The point is that d_m neither showed any desire not to argue nor to argue fairly. She just wanted her way by any means, including emotional blackmail, including reporting me to to the mods for hate speech. Is that how scientists are taught to debate serious issues these days?

Date: 2006-06-22 08:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fpb.livejournal.com
One I have seen is: "Jesus saves! So the rest of you who turned for goalkeeper trials can go home."

Date: 2006-06-22 08:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] prylliepwns.livejournal.com
That's good. Really good.

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