A random thought

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At one end of life, avus, who is old enough to be my father, works like a demon to help rehabilitate his wife, who has suffered a terrible accident, and is rewarded by a slow but constant improvement, till he is certain that the woman he married is back. At the other, photosynthesis, who is young enough to be my daughter, and who has a had a life in which absolutely nothing ever came easy, receives a proposal from the man she loves in the most awe-inspiring and romantic circumstances imaginable - at the altar rails on the day of the Resurrection of Our Lord. Now tell me why these two events should move me so much.

Well, there are two possible interpretations. One is that, having myself completely and permanently failed to find a companion, I tend to overestimate the importance of marriage. The other is that marriage, the union of a man and a woman, really is the central event in life, and that moments that bring out its tremendous and heroic aspects - commitment for life and ceremonial grandeur - have the emotional power of all the things that are noble and just and true.

Comments

About Jane

[super-pan.livejournal.com]

What you said may very well happen, because frankly old people fall apart and die, everybody dies, but it won't diminish the huge accomplishment and work of love that Avus and Jane have done together. And as for marriage,I guess it isn't right for some people, and that's ok, but marriage isn't always just a rigged game, it's just hard and you have to work at it and put up with shit sometimes, just like everything in life.

You said below ranting about it makes you feel better, and that's cool; I just felt like putting my two cents in, especially about Avus and Jane.

Re: About Jane

[rfachir.livejournal.com]

As I said, nothing against the people who get married. I have nothing against people at all, I have buckets of resentment against marriage the institution. I wish it was treated as an exception, like Holy Orders, and not a prerequisite for adult life, so that people who don't get married feel they're missing out on something. Finding someone to love is precious, and having them love back, at the same time, is nothing shy of a miracle. No arguement from me. It's the torture we put people through for the sake of the marriage contract, and the twisted things people do to each other because of the contract, that I despise with my whole heart.