troubling situation
Oct. 4th, 2004 12:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
fpbI generally take no interest whatever in the people who tried (when I knew nothing whatever about them) to make me a fandom wolf's-head. However, there have recently been some violent ructions whose echoes reached me through friends. This has made me curious; and, following up a series of fairly vile LJ entries, I have made a discovery that troubles me greatly.
Molly Moon suffers from a frightful, probably incurable and certainly hideously painful condition.
Let us get things straight. This is the person who (edited)was the first to rush in with the GAY BAR witch-hunt. She has spent months lying about me and misrepresenting me. She has done her best to turn all her friends against me, and a number of the people who are on my never-speak-to-again list have got there because of her incitement. I have not read, and will not read, her fic "featuring" me; but the fact that Chthonia, who knew nothing about the whole matter, was stunned by its contents, tells all that needs saying. This is a person whom I have banned from this LJ as soon as I knew how, and whose "anonymous" posts I have been deleting for months. This is a person whose behaviour towards me (and, I gather, towards one or two other people) I can only describe as despicable.
At the same time, she is in the kind of condition with which, had I known, I would have not wasted a second in offering sympathy and any help I could.
This does not make her behaviour any less putrid. Let us not forget that (edited)she threw herself into the GAY BAR witchhunt with enthusiasm, without making any attempt to understand what it was about and what I was about, at a time when I knew nothing whatsoever about her; she was inspired purely and simply by the need to hate, to find a target for some inner fury that has nothing to do with me, to persecute and misrepresent and tear down. (Incidentally, madam, I have only a BA and am self-taught in all essential areas from Latin to drawing. This for the record.) It may even have something to do with her condition; although I have known many disabled people (having had a little to do with disabled organizations and pro-life groups) and many, perhaps most, of them, however terrible their condition or their pain, were sweet, open-minded, kindly and untroubled souls. I suppose that pain may make you better, or may make you worse.
And here I am. I would be a fool if I forgot what this person has actually done, what she is still both capable and willing to do; at the same time, I really have a violent personal reaction against doing or saying anything against her, because I feel very strongly that birds with broken wings should not get extra kicks. This is my situation.
Let me however say that the other people who involved themselves up to their necks in the witch-hunt, especially the odious person who signs herself with the significant name Narcissa Malfoy, have no such excuse. I feel no compunction whatever about labelling this egotistical, lying, emotional-blackmailing drama queen for the scum she is. And I will be glad to go on doing so.
EDITSomeone whom I have no compunction at all about deleting sent a post full of inaccuracies and persecution-minded nonsense. There was however one statement there that I have also received from another source, namely that Molly Moon did not actually start the GAY BAR witch-hunt, she was only the first to publish. OK. But the rest of the charges stand, and I know for a fact that she has chosen to take the above remarks as insulting. Evidently her hatred for me is too precious a thing to forego lightly - another reason, perhaps, to feel sorry for her.
Molly Moon suffers from a frightful, probably incurable and certainly hideously painful condition.
Let us get things straight. This is the person who (edited)was the first to rush in with the GAY BAR witch-hunt. She has spent months lying about me and misrepresenting me. She has done her best to turn all her friends against me, and a number of the people who are on my never-speak-to-again list have got there because of her incitement. I have not read, and will not read, her fic "featuring" me; but the fact that Chthonia, who knew nothing about the whole matter, was stunned by its contents, tells all that needs saying. This is a person whom I have banned from this LJ as soon as I knew how, and whose "anonymous" posts I have been deleting for months. This is a person whose behaviour towards me (and, I gather, towards one or two other people) I can only describe as despicable.
At the same time, she is in the kind of condition with which, had I known, I would have not wasted a second in offering sympathy and any help I could.
This does not make her behaviour any less putrid. Let us not forget that (edited)she threw herself into the GAY BAR witchhunt with enthusiasm, without making any attempt to understand what it was about and what I was about, at a time when I knew nothing whatsoever about her; she was inspired purely and simply by the need to hate, to find a target for some inner fury that has nothing to do with me, to persecute and misrepresent and tear down. (Incidentally, madam, I have only a BA and am self-taught in all essential areas from Latin to drawing. This for the record.) It may even have something to do with her condition; although I have known many disabled people (having had a little to do with disabled organizations and pro-life groups) and many, perhaps most, of them, however terrible their condition or their pain, were sweet, open-minded, kindly and untroubled souls. I suppose that pain may make you better, or may make you worse.
And here I am. I would be a fool if I forgot what this person has actually done, what she is still both capable and willing to do; at the same time, I really have a violent personal reaction against doing or saying anything against her, because I feel very strongly that birds with broken wings should not get extra kicks. This is my situation.
Let me however say that the other people who involved themselves up to their necks in the witch-hunt, especially the odious person who signs herself with the significant name Narcissa Malfoy, have no such excuse. I feel no compunction whatever about labelling this egotistical, lying, emotional-blackmailing drama queen for the scum she is. And I will be glad to go on doing so.
EDITSomeone whom I have no compunction at all about deleting sent a post full of inaccuracies and persecution-minded nonsense. There was however one statement there that I have also received from another source, namely that Molly Moon did not actually start the GAY BAR witch-hunt, she was only the first to publish. OK. But the rest of the charges stand, and I know for a fact that she has chosen to take the above remarks as insulting. Evidently her hatred for me is too precious a thing to forego lightly - another reason, perhaps, to feel sorry for her.
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objection!
Date: 2004-10-05 02:48 am (UTC)*cough*
And that's coming from the person who was taking my head off for in a very roundabout way (and without hostile intent) refering to him as an 'ignoramus' recently?
Looking at the above, that objection to name-calling seems to be at best double-standards, and at worst hypocrisy.
I don't care if (all of) you flamewar over that dead old bone (or the new one) until hell freezes, but I will *not* acquiesce to such a vicious attack on someone I respect. And yes, that will apply the other way round too. I would suggest another edit.
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Date: 2004-10-05 05:27 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-05 07:22 am (UTC)The *crux* is that listening to elaborate complaints about vicious attacks made on *you* while having to read vicious attacks *from* you on others pis... annoys me a little. Ok, a lot. As if there should be one rule for you, and another for everyone else - that just doesn't wash!
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Date: 2004-10-05 07:28 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-05 12:14 pm (UTC)I would have absolutely no scruples to defend you, but *not* if you insist on being no less vicious (and sometimes worse) than the 'opposition'. Slinging around insults is *not* making a point, and it costs you far more credibility than anything else.
*sigh* Not that I'm not repeating myself like an old LP here...
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Date: 2004-10-05 12:19 pm (UTC)Everyone is the hero of their own life story, which means that there are eventually villians as well. Unfortunately, FPB's life story tends to resemble 'Don Quioxite'.
"Come on, let's fight another windmill!"
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Date: 2004-10-05 12:58 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-05 01:12 pm (UTC)There are, on the other hand, a couple of pieces of writing of mine which you might uncontentiously review...
I'm probably going to regret saying anything about this but I never know when to keep my mouth shut.
Date: 2004-10-05 08:00 am (UTC)Speaking as one of her friends, that's not true. She's detailed some of her experiences with you, and certainly portrayed you in a negative light seeing as that's her opinion of you, but she's hardly going to each of us and saying "This is the worst person ever! Never speak to him or be on friendly terms with him at all, or you're as bad as he is!" or somesuch. For some evidence of this, witness that she's still on the same terms with me as before, even though I'm striking up a tentative friendship with you. If her vendetta was as all-encompassing as you attest, this would not be the case.
it was inspired purely and simply by the need to hate, to find a target for some inner fury that has nothing to do with me, to persecute and misrepresent and tear down
This also is entirely untrue. I have not read your Gay Bar fic, but I know a number of people who have and were deeply, deeply shocked by what they saw as excessively homophobic overtones. That is what inspired all the negativity; they weren't running around looking for something to throw a fit about, fandom_wank style, however it may seem to you. If they misjudged your intentions that's a great shame, but they were as deeply shocked by what they found in that fic as others have been by Molly's fic about you. They had no deep need to hate; indeed, they saw your fic as being evidence of the same sort of behavior you're now attributing to them.
I'm not trying to throw the blame in your lap here, please understand. I just want to state that I suspect there's been a lot of misunderstanding on both sides. Not that that does anything to fix matters in the slightest...
As for Narcissa Malfoy, you may perhaps be intersted to know that she too suffers from a deeply difficult and nearly impossible to cure disease. And Molly's sense of being insulted by this entry has nothing to do with you or her dislike of you, but of your attitude towards the disabled, and the phrase "bird with two broken wings"; she believes, as do so many others with various sorts of handicaps, that her disability has permitted her to become a stronger person. You're portraying her as being helpless, and nobody--disabled or otherwise--is going to take that without feeling insulted. God knows I'd be insulted by that slap in the face, however well-intentioned the reasons behind it. It has nothing to do with your history, believe it or not.
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Date: 2004-10-05 08:17 am (UTC)I will not even comment on the matter of disability. For personal reasons, that is a very sensitive spot with me. Just take the hint where I said that I had a little to do with disabled and pro-life groups, and don't bring up the subject again. That Molly Moon went out of her way to misunderstand and misrepresent what I said does not surprise me; that you should take her at her word does.
"Misunderstanding on both sides????" What, exactly, of the concept of "witch-hunt" can be misunderstood? These people tried so hard to understand me that they filled both my threads and my LJ with hate mail of the vilest kind. A little of that, believe me, goes a long way.
"As for Narcissa Malfoy, you may perhaps be interested to know" that she has stated in so many words that she is not disposed to see any kind of defence of me on her F-list. That being the case, any attempt to present her attitude as other than it is is plainly doomed. And I have had an opportunity to see how she deals with her friends, which makes me feel that being her enemy is the safer option.
Finally, why don't you read GAY BAR for yourself before listening to the views of others? http://www.fanfiction.net/s/2026608/1/
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Date: 2004-10-05 09:50 am (UTC)I am not, I hope, taking Molly at her word; I'm not generally inclined to take anyone at their word. And how could I be in this case, since I read your entry myself, and before I read hers in response to it? But I can see what she objects to in the entry, since it would bother me as well; that was what I was trying to say. If you still believe she's merely being willfully misunderstanding, well, that's your perrogative; I was just hoping to point out an alternate possibility. I'll refrain from doing so in the future if you like, since this really is none of my business and I should probably stay out of it.
As for Gay Bar...*sygh* I have now read it. And I'm sorry to say I do think it displays an astonishing level of negativity towards homosexuals, as well as a portrayal of the most damaging stereotype of "the homosexual lifestyle" (a particular pet peeve of mine and a source of much contention between one of my best friends and I). I know you've said that this was not your intention, and you wanted to write a character-driven portrayal of Harry and Draco in future years. But that's not how it comes across. The implications are that Harry is turned gay because of his problematic family history, that being gay involves an entirely self-destructive lifestyle, and above all that Harry's being gay would have caused the side of good to fall, which very much implies that being gay is inherently evil. I really did pay attention a while back when you stated your intentions in writing the story, but if I'd found it and known nothing about you and what you had in mind, I'd be shocked and a bit insulted (given my own bisexual nature). I know several people--several of them quite reasonable and intelligent otherwise--who believe that all homosexuals lead lifestyles like the one you give to Harry in the fic, and that stereotype (which is largely mythical or at least drastically overhyped compared to the current reality) does a lot of damage. This, I would suspect, is why so many others have had so drastic a reaction to your portrayal. My reaction would not be anything like so drastic, but neither would I be inclined to seek out anything else you'd ever written, if I didn't know more about you--and know that you're not homophobic yourself--in advance of reading the fic.
I swear, I read it impartially, and as a long-time fighter of censorship I do have skills in that area. Nor would I ever condemn a fic just because it portrays a negative stereotype; I'd just refuse to read it. But I do see that the negative stereotype appears to be there, even if you did not intend it so. I'm very sorry; I wish it were otherwise.
However, I do not in any way shape or form condone the witch-hunt, and I think fandom_wank is a truly frightening and indisious thing. By misunderstanding I referred to their original misunderstanding of your intentions in writing the fic, not anything that followed afterwards. I would not dismiss the hatemail you've gotten with such a pathetic description, even though I know only a fraction about the matter, I'm sure. And I'm very sorry you've been so attacked, for what that's worth.
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Date: 2004-10-05 12:55 pm (UTC)Re: I'm probably going to regret saying anything about this but I never know when to keep my mouth s
Date: 2004-10-05 01:18 pm (UTC)Yes, I took Draco seriously when he rambles about if only they'd known; wasn't he intended to be taken seriously? It certainly reads that way. No, gay bars and leathers don't prejudice me; I'm familliar with both. It's the last paragraph that throws all the rest into question. I did see that Harry had triumphed and Voldemort was dead, but that's not the point. The point is that Draco repeats that they could have saved the Dark Lord if they'd known Harry was gay. I'm sure you just mean that this would have given them a weapon to use against Harry, a weak point they could have exploited to prevent him from winning, but the way it's written feels as though the story's moral is that being gay is evil. I'm sorry but I can't see it any other way. You told me to read your fic for myself and see if there was a negtive portrayal; I think there is, even if that wasn't your intentions. I'm sorry you don't like the criticism--I wouldn't either--but it's my honest opinion, which you requested. It's not a matter of inaccuracy or lack of attention, it's a matter of how the story appears to a reader who doesn't know your motivations. It looks different outside of your head; all stories do, which is the main hazard of writing anything.
Finally, I don't drink. I've never been drunk. I have alcoholics in my family and that is a very sensitive accusation with me, just as much as your reaction to being aligned with the Mafia, and I really don't appreciate the implication. I have tried my hardest to be rational and reasonable and give you the benefit of the doubt, even though you hate many of my friends and vice-versa. I've talked politely with you and have never, ever, ever offered you an intentional insult. You keep seeing insults I don't intend. I don't know if you've been made over-antagonistic by your treatment from everyone else or what, but I don't appreciate it, and if that's how you're going to continue to act there's no point in my trying to talk with you anymore, because I'm exhausted from the effort of trying to demonstrate that I don't have a bad opinion of you, particularly since you don't seem to believe it. If you'd rather just dismiss me as another evil-minded maniac, tell me now and let me stop trying to prove otherwise. Given all the unwarranted insults you've offered me today--at least one of which you have admitted yourself was indeed unwarranted--I'm beginning to wonder why I bother. Just today, you've accused me of hypocrisy (I never said anything you've written should be banned or censored!), slander (though you retracted that one), prejudice, inattention, inaccuracy...and those last three just for a review of a story, and a review that contained no personal insults whatsoever? The personal insults have all been on your side. If this is how you treat the people you call friends, no wonder your enemies have such a field day.
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Date: 2004-10-05 01:41 pm (UTC)I regret to hear that mention of drunkenness should be so painful to you. But my reaction to your review would have been along the same lines anyway: if not "were you stoned?" then, "were you hallucinating?" or "are you sure you don't have a high fever?" So wholly irrelevant did what you wrote seem to what I have written. As for the comment on defending from censorship, it certainly had something to do with what seemed to me your obvious prejudice, but much more with the sheer lack of perception.
Someone else before you took Draco seriously. I answered: "I don’t know about you, but I have met enough old Fascists and former army and navy commanders going on about how they could have won the War and defeated the Allies, but for the treachery of This, the stupidity of That, the feeble-heartedness of The Other. Of course there is no logic: this is the pure, gratuituous fantasizing of someone not only defeated but outdated, gnawing in the dark at his old delusions in vain. I thought I had dropped a strong enough hint that Draco lived in a world of constant self-deception, when I had him, within three sentences of each other, first notice with concern that Harry had Quidditch muscles – when he efficiently knocked out that other guy – and then, when he has used magic to smash him down, threaten him “next time I’ll use my fists.” He is talking nonsense, and Harry knows it (“delicate little Draco”): hand to hand, he would not stand a chance against Harry. Yet, he has worked himself up almost to believing his absurd brag..."
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Date: 2004-10-05 01:54 pm (UTC)You did not in my opinion drop a strong enough hint that Draco lives in a world of constant self-deception; rather the reverse, actually. He comes across as being quite clear-minded and rational. We have no reason to believe Harry's perception of "delicate little Draco" as being incapable of knocking him done or such is incorrect, particularly since Harry himself is very drunk and his opinion cannot carry much weight. We see Draco as a fairly capable adult; there is not enough evidence to demonstrate that he is otherwise. Perhaps I and others fail to see your point because we are not old enough to be familliar with former fascists and those who go on and on about how they could have won the War but for such-and-such; it's not an attitude with which I am familliar, so of course I could not have picked up on it. I'd hardly call my reaction prejudiced or unperceptive in that case, merely very uninformed, which I cannot help, not knowing how I needed to be informed before I read the fic. If you added a preface stating that such experience would be helpful, perhaps so many people wouldn't jump to the wrong conclusion.
I repeat: the personal insults have thus far all been on your side, and I would appreciate an apology. An impersonal negative review of a story is no excuse for personal attacks. Given how much you dislike such attacks from others, I'd have thought you'd be more careful of throwing them out yourself.
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Date: 2004-10-05 02:26 pm (UTC)Re: I'm probably going to regret saying anything about this but I never know when to keep my mouth s
Date: 2004-10-06 11:39 am (UTC)That declared, it's true we have nothing more to say to each other. Good luck in your future endeavors, particularly in improving your methods of expressing yourself, and good bye.
i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-05 05:10 pm (UTC)We have no reason to believe Harry's perception of "delicate little Draco" as being incapable of knocking him done or such is incorrect, particularly since Harry himself is very drunk and his opinion cannot carry much weight. We see Draco as a fairly capable adult; there is not enough evidence to demonstrate that he is otherwise. Perhaps I and others fail to see your point because we are not old enough to be familliar with former fascists and those who go on and on about how they could have won the War but for such-and-such; it's not an attitude with which I am familliar, so of course I could not have picked up on it.
I would just like to add, because for some inexplicable reason I clicked on this fic also, that whether or not you were old enough to be a Nazi *pinches your cheeks*, you still wouldn't have been able to tell that Draco was supposed to be self-deluded, because the basic idea behind his self-delusion is that homosexuality is something to be avoided at all costs.
And since the entire surrounding atmosphere of the fic both portrays and promotes that idea, from Harry's unhappiness to the sleazy atmosphere of the bar, to the come-ons and the "we'll get your children" taunts (my god), all without a single expression of tongue-in-cheek parody about it, there was no *possible* way you could have picked up on that critique of Draco. The only way we can conclude he is wrong about himself is if we see that he is *WRONG*. Instead we see him surrounded by scary gay predators.
The only clear self-delusion I find here is that on the part of the author who believes that there is anything slightly inoffensive or less than blatantly homophobic about this fic.
--Aja, who is not drunk
Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-05 10:27 pm (UTC)Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-06 03:14 pm (UTC)You really should just stop before you give yourself an ulcer.
Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-06 03:21 pm (UTC)Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-06 03:30 pm (UTC)Betch you've already banned me
But if you haven't - and before you do - please seek therapy.
Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-06 03:35 pm (UTC)Re: i do too. *wanks*
Date: 2004-10-06 04:12 pm (UTC)♥♥♥♥♥
:D
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Date: 2004-10-08 08:09 am (UTC)Seeing that this reaction is practically universal in your readership, you might consider that there truly *is* a problem in communication with this fic.
Without trying to force-feed you linguistic theory (I'll live a happy life never having to look at one again), there is a vast difference between authorial intent and reader response. For that very reason I'm so grateful for beta-readers: they give me an impression of what works in a story, and how things come across in advance. Having readers continually misunderstand the point you're trying to bring across *is* painful (I'm sitting on a piece at the moment which makes perfect sense in my head, but everybody who's read it so far either misinterpreted what I was trying to say, or stated plainly it made no sense). But it made me conclude that there is a problem with my plot, not that everybody else is too blinkered to see the point.
As Ashfae has pointed out, it is that way with 'Gay Bar'. Now I never assumed you wrote that intentionally as an assault on homosexuality. But I can understand why people read it as such. For someone with strong feelings about the issues, and perhaps personal experiences with stereotyping, it is easy to jump the gun and take Draco's PoV at face value. There are some very troublesome bits in Harry's characterisation that I find incompatible with his character (I'd never say that he couldn't lash out horribly when drunk, but not in that direction), but the crucial point is Draco's PoV. You explain that Draco is deluded at the end and throughout, but that did not occur to me at first reading, and I had to hear your explanation and re-read it with that in mind to be able to see that angle. And even then, it did not convince me. Draco is the narrator, and the victim, the sober husband and father pitted against a threat to himself and his children, and there just isn't enough for us to draw on so that we don't take the ending at face value.
I'm perfectly sure the development makes sense to *you*, but that point does not make it across on the page. That happens, to the best of us. I would not say so blatantly that it doesn't work if I had seen *anyone* read it according to your interpretation (I hate to generalise on my subjective opinions), but if no one sees it the way you do, there just *might* be a problem with the story, not the readership...
Of course that should by no means stop you from posting it - but you are aware that your readers are going to misread your intention and react with everything between mild distaste and full-blown outrage, depending on their personality and experiences. Or you could, of course, revise it so that it brings out the point you want to make in a way that is transparent for the readers. As I hinted before, developing Harry's PoV and using it as a counterbalance might be a way - also perhaps a way to bring out Draco' delusions more clearly). I mean, what sense is there in martyring yourself over a point that you don't even want to make?
I don't think I've ever written you an unfair put down review before; some of your stories are great, a lot are good, a few are just too fluffy/not on themes I personally enjoy, but only *one* does definitely not work. And this is it.
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Date: 2004-10-09 08:20 am (UTC)If you'd rather leave it as it is, that's certainly your choice. But it seems a shame to abandon a fic that could be quite good with a bit more work.
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Date: 2004-10-09 11:37 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2004-10-05 04:32 pm (UTC)I appreciate what you said about Debbie - I've been in the same situation, far too many times and I can assure you, I found it very creepy. Using her name in a fic? It's not stalking as such, but it is definitely unacceptable behaviour, regardless of how positively you think you have portrayed her. Men with the sort of obsession you appear to have are more than creepy - it's both hateful and scary.
I was shocked when I first read Molly Moon's fic - but I don't know you, and I found the fic well-written and very humourous. So, it was out of line to use your real name, I'll agree with that. But attacking her in the manner you have in your LJ is unforgivable. I also have great respect for Narcissa Malfoy, and doubt you can prove from the HP books that the original character is a villain of any sort. It would have been pleasant to find that the complaints about you that I've heard were misplaced. Unfortunately I see that they are not.
(And you've got a wonderful, flowing name! Such a pity the personality is so abrasive.)
Actually, if you stop insulting people so much, we might like you - a little. Is it too late for redemption?
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Date: 2004-10-05 10:19 pm (UTC)How many times do I have to say that I have never complained about MM using my name, before it begins to enter your closed minds and narrow brain processes? The complaint was entered by Narcissa "scum" Malfoy, Moon's creepy ally, in order to distract attention from the complaint about ethnic stereotyping, which, by your own account, you found funny. It is funny to call someone - anyone - a mafioso murderer? There are two things you should never call me, apart from anything involving my mother, and a mafioso is one of them. In my lifetime, the mafia has been guilty of hundred of hideous murders; it has been, along with terrorism, the most cruel and relentless enemy of the Italian state and people. I have learned, as have all Italians of my generation, that there is such a thing as dying for your country, for the law, for justice; that to stand up for what is right is something that is often paid in blood. And you find identifying me with those filth funny? Crawl under some stone, madam.
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Date: 2004-10-05 11:48 pm (UTC)The way to end this nastiness is simple: Silence.
For a while, there will still be heated words, but if you say nothing more, they cannot pick up anything else. Talk of other things, your pets, your house, do not reply to them and do not attack them. Do not look at their livejournals, or look them up. Do not read what they say.
If you do not attack, and do not feed, there will be no more arguments, or "witch hunts".
If you truly want this sort of cattiness to stop, then you must be the bigger person, and stop first.
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Date: 2004-10-06 12:01 am (UTC)On the other hand, I do react to what is written on mine, or on review threads for my stories. And to avoid trouble does not seem to me necessarily a high moral dictate.
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Date: 2004-10-06 12:22 am (UTC)A pity.
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